Partnering

This has long since been a post in the making for some time now but real life has a funny way of getting in the way when things need to be accomplished. Anyways a while back, and by a while back I mean 8/6/11 (this is a very late post and I apologize for that) I partnered someone one I have been seeing in sl. Aspen Huntress is my girl in this wonderful pixel world and let me say there is a very long story here. We have known each other since November 18, 2010 so that's roughly nine months we have been in each others lives. Some may think this isn't a long time and others may argue but let me say from a previous post secondlife time works much faster than real life. Though it still comes to a surprise to me everyday that in less than three months we will have been in each others lives for a year. It's the type of reaction that makes me stop and whisper under my breath, "wow," and think about all of our times together. We didn't talk so much in the beginning but let me say once we really started talking we honestly talked practically every single day. A few days here and there or if there was the extremely rare moments a fight and we didn't talk for a rough time of a couple days...even then it didn't last. Now in the beginning we didn't actually meet up in world for the longest time it was pure talking every single day about anything and everything would could imagine. It mostly consisted of flirting, talking about problems, flirting, photos and a lot of flirting. Okay so we flirted a lot and when I look back on it I don't think I realized how much we just naturally flirted and flowed, it as smooth and natural and as I told her for the longest time we had chemistry... who am I kidding we still do.
There was a lot of struggles along our journey of friends, what can I say? We danced around each other so much as if testing the waters and when it comes down to it we were just plain scared because the emotions are honestly that strong. To say that we didn't try running from each other would be a understatement, we tired and failed happily actually. But through all these ups and downs there was just no getting away from each other we were hooked, addicted whatever you might like to call it we some how manged to grab a hold of each other deeply. So finally the day came when we got together June 14, 2011 after so many months and even admitting we loved one another long before that the moment came they we were each other.
I know there are some issues up there in the air about partnering and or getting married on secondlife. From my own personally experience from doing both yes there can be a difference between these to events. I can smugly say that I did surprise the heck out of her by asking her to partner me, I think some small part of her new but I still shocked her nevertheless. As such we have been partnered since August 8, 2011 and still going and I'm sure a lot are wondering about this. First and for most all I can say about this is we do tell each other everything. This in itself has been a small issue and I've had to come cracking down but no relationship isn't without it's ups or downs at all. We communicate... A LOT, and this is a major key in this role. As for another thing is we don't allow the other to push each other around, well maybe in some nice roleplays for foreplays but that's entirely different. We aren't afraid to get in each others faces and let each other know when the other has over stepped their bounds. Thus the whole communicating factor comes back into play.
All I can say to wrap up this post is I'm incredibly happy to be partnered to this woman, through all the ups and downs we are still strong and thriving about on the world of sl. It's honestly a wonderful experience to enjoy and I savor every single second of it, but don't be afraid to test the waters a little and don't dive right in either. Take us for example took us practically 7-8 months before we went seriously into this holding hands. Savor and love one another but always be aware no two people are perfect and fights are going to happen but I happily fight those fights with her and will still kiss her at the end of each day with the words "I love you" on my lips and holding her hand in mine.

SL Relationships

This is a very heavy topic I know but I feel perhaps it should just be done and over with. There is so much to be written down about this particular occurrence in the world of secondlife. I'm going to try to break down everything that I can in a single post from everything I've learn and what I believe. I understand that not every one is going to agree with what I but I hope most will see what I mean.
Some of the things I've picked up along this two year journey though sl is relationships are going to be a major part of your world. Friendships, girlfriends, boyrfriends (perhaps both) are going to come and go or stay. The first thing I think most forget sometimes, or lose, is in any sl relationship communication is a HUGE part of it. All you have for the most part of sl is communication, you have to be willing to talk things through even the simplest of things. Also never forget no two people are perfect there WILL be fights and every one is going to encounter them, it boils down to whether you can possibly sit down and work through them or is it not worth it and walk away. Sounds hard yet easy all at the same time, confusing I know but it's what I learned the most. You gotta talk! I mean wouldn't you want to talk to your lover, the one you want to spend your time with? If it makes any one feel better this is something I've even struggled with several times myself, but I've sat myself down several times in the last couple months with my girl and we have and so many serious talks I couldn't count them all on my hands. It's rough sometimes but trust me when I say in the end you'll be so thankful for doing it. Real life emotions go into this game, you get invested into the people just like you would in rl and talking has to happen. I couldn't imagine it any other way.
Now time to bring up probably one of thee biggest issues ever in the sl dating community. Cheating. I know this might as well be taboo but sadly it's a daily occurrence in sl, it honestly happens all the time. It's much easier to cheat in sl and both women and men are guilty of this, it's harder to keep track of a partner in the high speed world of secondlife. Sl is really like it's own dimension one month in the real world might as well be three months or more in secondlife, time moves faster in sl. But the one warning I give out in this online game is someone is ALWAYS watching, as creepy as this may sound but it's true. Unless you wanna pay a very pretty penny for your own private sim with none around it there will always be someone aware of where or who you're with. Lets not forget to mention that there's the infamous chat logs, it may be against the rules to share them but hell people do it anyways and harsh as it is LL could hardly care about your little soap opera of yours. They want your money and badly as it is, sl runs on drama and sex (with some rp in there too). From my own personal experience cheating in sl may be a lot of fun, oh yes, but it will come back around and bite you in the ass. It's extremely RARE for someone not to get caught cheating unless it's all on mic otherwise someone is going to know. This doesn't really apply to any of those open relationships but if you go into a close relationship there has to be some trust because there is a lot of temptation in sl and more so than real life.
Moving past some of the much more painful parts of being in a relationship, one of the things I see happening a lot in secondlife is people getting together way to quickly. Yes, this happens in real life as well which really stumps me. I look at all of my relationships and I honestly can say I had always known who I got with for at least a month and tested the waters before leaping. I take the relationship I am in now I knew her from November up until June did we finally get together, we developed such a beautiful friendship and made everything now all that much sweeter. Getting to know someone is key, I've seen way to many stalker and cyber bullies to say you need to really understand a person before getting with them. Those are my words of advice, I know I had so much more to mention on this subject but I can't seem to remember it all now. Damn....should have written it out yesterday. Oh wells!

Giving In

So this has long since been a work in progress, if I do say so which I do, but it seems like a lot of people in my life seem to write in some shape or form. As of lately I'm finding myself looking more and more at blogs like these so the thought crossed my mind and I finally gave in to writing some blogs out.
Now if anyone knows me I can have a very interesting way of writing but I promise I will try to make a point in every post I write out. Can't promise I'll write like it's my new found religion or anything but perhaps in time it will pick or it might crash and burn into the ground. Getting back on to track I decided I would try to give a little insight to possibly who I am before I start picking out topics to write about. The first thing I feel I should mention is that a lot of what I write will probably be wrapped around secondlife (aka sl from now on), yes this is a online game to which I play a lot. For over two years now I have invested a lot of my life into this and honestly it may or may not be for everyone. I feel I need to warn every one though this game is highly addicting it starts of slow then next thing you know you tossed into a high speed world of online fashion, photography, role-playing, animation/posing designs and lets not forget the ever famous dancing/stripping/escorting and emoting communities. There's much more but I fear I could not even mention them all because this game is forever growing. It never stops. I'm sure most (those who don't play, those who do I know understand perfectly well) why would anyone want to explore and get into it, trust me when I say it never starts off that way. Typically goes a thinking this might as well be any other type of online community but it develops into so much more than that. Repeating my last statement this game is HIGHLY addicting. Almost every single day you'll find me online at one point or another playing myself or taking a photo and buried in photoshop. I only mention sl because it honestly is a major part of my life and I can promise almost if not all of my post will relate to this strange world that I've grow accustom to and love.
Getting back to talking about me I will try to cover perhaps some of the basics. I'm a rather quiet person even in sl, I'm more of a private person in all worlds. Quick to temper sometimes but yet I have a lot of patience, which can pay of on sl. All day I sit around at work (sometimes sl work) and thinks, because I have a lot of time on my hands to think when I'm not with my girl. Yes, I'm taken in the wonderful world of sl and I wouldn't have it any other way, I'll write that story out another time. Finally I got it in my head I would sit down and start writing whatever crosses my mind for others to read. Now honestly I can't promise anything of quality but I will be trying my best. Grammar, eh well I'll be trying to not disappoint my English teachers to badly. For future notices I will probably write down my experience, perhaps a feel fashion posts and probably the most highly looked forward to my role-playing and emoting experiences. Haha... now if you know me, Niku Firehawk, in sl is quite aware of my emoting skills. But there are the extreme few who have ever gotten to experience my honest writing. We'll see if those ever come, now I'm sure I'm bored your eyes out of your skulls. Until next time.... which will probably be tomorrow.